1. We learn to think relationally; 2. which works instrumentally; 3. but increases our access to pain, and causes misery when applied to our own insides. 4. You cannot rein in this kind of judgment judgmentally, 5. but you can learn to do so mindfully, with resulting broad and deep benefits, especially when it is part of a pattern of values-based action.
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